Systemic lupus erythematosis (Lupus or SLE)is a very dangerous disease for the kidney and also for pregnancy. This is a very complicated disease that can cause injury to your kidney, injury to you and injury to a developing fetus. Hence, it is important that this disease be controlled before you become pregnant. I am unable to give medical advice without performing a complete history and physical examination. I suggest that you discuss your concerns with your physicians and try to understand the difficult problems that you face. You may be able to consider adoption, if the disease cannot be controlled.